We know it’s easy to get into a sex rut. So, we’ve curated a compendium of quality quick wins that will fire up your sex life in a flash. Get ready for Scarlet’s quirkiest quick-fire sex tips…
1. Sweet Music
Suffering from wrist-ache during handjobs? Try ‘bagpiping’ as an alternative – simply slide your man’s member in your lubed-up armpit, and let him thrust away.
2. Be Tight
Cross your legs during doggy-style sex to increase friction for you and your partner. Squeeze and release your thigh muscles for extra oomph.
3. Lazy Girl
Libido letting you down? Visit https://makelovenotporn.tv/ and watch some porn with your lover: instant mutual foreplay.
4. Script Writer
If other people’s film efforts don’t get you off, create two characters with your lover – you write the script for one while they write the script for the other (the characters can be male and female, two women, two gay guys, whatever takes your fancy). You can then act out the script and record it on your phone and relive the moment whenever your libido needs a boost.
5. You Lube
Lube can be used as an all-over massage lotion – have your partner rub it into your breasts, then use it to massage onto their bits. How about role-playing a massage parlour with a happy finish?
6. Secret Lover
It’s cool to share fantasies with a partner, but keep one fantasy that’s just for you. That way, it will feel more taboo and thrilling.
7. Call Waiting
Text your lover to say: ‘Just listen to my next call’. Then call them and start masturbating. When you’re about to climax, hit ‘call’ and let them hear you come.
8. Easy Does It
Try this lazy hand-job: slather your man’s cock in lube, grip it and then clench and release your fingers in a pulsing motion. He’ll pump up and down between your fingers – no wrist-action required.
9. Sweet Nothings
Some people have ‘trigger words’ that can act as instant turn-ons. Think about what words turn you on then swap them with your partner and whisper them to each other when you’re in public places.
10. Rip Off
Primark has a great selection of thongs starting from just £1. Ask your lover to tear them off with their teeth – grrr!
11. Spit Or Swallow
If the idea of swallowing makes you want to join a nunnery, but you still want to give your man an x-rated treat, spit on his cock during oral instead. It’s all the rage in porno land (but personally we prefer lube).
12. Double Fun
Is your man on the small side? Slide a slimline vibe alongside his cock during sex to make him harder and fill you up.
13. Magic Fairy
Want to be seen in a flattering light? Try Red LED Valentine Hearts Fairy Lights. Flashing red light is dispersed through heart shaped bulbs for a seriously sexy glow.
14. Hovering Butterfly
Straddle your partner’s face and grind to orgasm to show him exactly which moves get you off.
15. Self-abuse
During masturbation use your spare hand to pull your hair for submissive kicks – the pain/pleasure mix will send your nerve-endings into a frenzy.
16. Get Flexing
During sex contract your Kegel muscles to massage his cock and concentrate around the head of his penis where it’s most sensitive.
17. Whipping Boy
Order your man to remain completely still while fucking doggy-style, then control the thrusts by pushing back against his cock. Keep a riding crop or similar prop to hand and use it to smack his flanks if he moves an inch. Kinky, but cute.
18. Read My Lips
When you’re next out for dinner with your lover, nip to the loo, masturbate, then slowly and seductively rub your wet finger over their lips when you get back.
19. And Breathe
Breathing deeply during sex will enhance your orgasm.
20. Novel Idea
Buy an erotic novel, use highlighter pen and post-it notes to mark things in the book that you’d like to try. When you’re finished, give your lover the book with a note reading ‘fancy this?’.
21. Wet S&M
If you’re into bondage, try taking your sex sessions into the shower. Fasten your lover, or yourself, to the shower rail and relish the water beating down on you. We always knew that soap-on-a-rope would come in really handy.
22. Squeezy-peasy
Squeeze and release your buttocks during sex to add impact to Kegel flexes. The extra muscular tension build-up will boost orgasm to a whole new level.
23. The 2.5 Some
If your man has Sapphic fantasies, and you’re keen to dabble but not go all the way with a woman, enlist a broadminded friend and kiss her in front of him, on the condition that later, when you’re both alone together, he verbally completes the scenario, sharing with you the fantasy of what could have happened next.
24. Disrobe
Improvise bondage equipment. A robe’s sash is a lovely restraint and a fly-swatter delivers a playful sting to the buttocks.
25. Fluttery Will Get You Everywhere
Dress up for sex, ensuring that extra long soft false eyelashes are part of your outfit, then blindfold your man and give him butterfly kisses – fluttering eyelashes against skin – all over his erection.
26. Seam’s Good
We know you’ve probably already done this, but when you’re sitting down in skintight jeans, you can move your hips from side to side and the central seam will rub back and forth between your labia and over your clit – meaning you can masturbate just about anywhere you can discreetly wiggle.
27. Extra Buzz
During doggy-style sex, grab a bullet vibrator and stimulate your clit while he’s fucking you from behind. It’s horny for him and hot for you.”
28. Million Dollar Orgasm
On the perineum just behind the balls and in front of the anus is your bloke’s million-dollar point. Pressing it will delay or stop his orgasm, as it interrupts the ejaculatory reflex. Prolonging your lover’s pleasure at such a heightened state of arousal will blow his mind when you finally let him come.
29. Get Creamed
Cut up bin liners, place them all over your floor and have a naked cream fight. Don’t stop until you’ve licked each other clean.
30. Look, No Hands!
Get your lover to tie your hands together then use every other part of your body to pleasure them.
31. The Write Stuff
Scrawl edible directions all over your body with edible icing or try this body paint kit. Things like ‘lick here’, ‘ejaculate here’, etc – then tell your lover to follow your tasty orders.
32. Your Call
Sexual empowerment is as much about saying ‘no’ as it is about saying ‘yes’ – refuse whenever you want to.
33. He’s Your Girl
Take control of your guy’s feminine side. Dress him in your tartiest clothes and heels, make him up and buy a strap-on. Spend your session reversing roles – penetrating your guy will be an incredibly erotic experience for both of you.
34. Beach Wail
Make sunbathing less boring by investing in a remote-controlled vibe (try these remote love eggs then give your partner the controls while you lie and wait for the thrills.
35. Gay Night In
Get some gay porn, invite the girls round and enjoy a night of guy/guy action. By the end you’ll be thoroughly educated in how to work a man’s erogenous zones. And then some.
36. Helping Hand
Get your man to masturbate while you suck the tip of his cock. It will double the power of your blow-job.
37. Wet Sex
For convenient watersports, use the bath. Straddle the tub while your lover lies in the bath ready to look, smell and feel your wetness gushing down. It’s easy to clean up afterwards.
38. Bum Deal
Circle a lubed finger around the rim of your man’s anus while you suck his member at the same time.
39. No Butt, Yes Butt
If you want to try anal but are worried about potential pain or getting your man’s wang messy, insert a small vibrating butt plug into your rectum during regular sex for a taboo-breaking treat.
40. Top Tip
Next time you strip off, slow down. Purposefully removing your clothes can be a visual tease for a partner. Pulling your top over your head while on top of him is an extra special treat…
41. Slippery When Wet
Cover your naked body in lube then play ‘catch’ with your lover. You’ll slip out of their hands as they grab you – but when they finally do catch you it’ll be worth it.
42. Jiggle It
During missionary, get your partner to hold still while propped on their forearms, then jiggle beneath them to get clitoral stimulation. It’s one way to be dominant (especially shouting ‘Don’t move!’ when they try to thrust) with them still on top.
43. Use It!
“If you’re sucking a guy’s cock, massage his testicles at the same time,” says actress and model, Taylor Wane. “People tend to only do one thing at a time. You’ve got two hands and one mouth, so use them!”
44. Roll Up…
…your worn knickers and put them in your lover’s mouth as a gag for Domme-style sex.
45. Score 70
69 plus one (toy) is much more fun, so insert a vibrating love egg before you get into position next time.
46. Climax Cluedo
Cunnilingus in the bathroom with a vibrator; anal over the kitchen sink with a feather duster; massage in the bedroom with a velvet paddle… A little bit of mystery can turn your sex life into a red-hot game for two. On little pieces of pink paper write down every kind of sex act you and your partner are prepared to indulge in, from deep throat to ‘cowgirl’. On pieces of blue paper, write down every potential lovemaking surface in your home (sofa, hallway floor, bathtub, etc). Finally, on pieces of white paper, write down all the sex toys, household props, foods or lubes that you would like to involve in your sex sessions, then fold the papers and pick one in each colour at random and follow the instructions.
47. Two Feet Six Inches
Lube the soles of your feet, then clasp his cock between them and move them up and down his shaft for a Golden Lotus foot-job.
48. Sexy Knickers
If direct clitoral contact is too much for you, wrap silk pants around your finger tips and stroke them against your clit instead.
49. Girls On Top
Anal sex is easiest if you go on top and slide down onto the penis. You can grind your clitoris on his pelvic bone and if you don’t want deep penetration, it’s easy to move around to get the penetration you do want.”
50. Let Him Rip
Wear cheap tights and let your man rip a hole in them through which he can penetrate you for sex with added urgency
51. Hot Stuff
“When we’re aroused our temperature increases,” says sexpert Dr. Kelly Russell. “So try using a lickable warming lubricant that heats up when you rub or blow on it. Subconsciously your lover will equate each heated oral-exchange to your passion and pleasure.”
52. Dam It
Dental dams – square pieces of latex – can protect you from picking up STIs during cunnilingus and rim-jobs, but they’re tricky to get hold of. Cut up a condom to use as a dental dam. This will work in the same way to avoid passing on an STI through oral sex.
53. Scent With Love
“Shower and slip on sexy knickers,” suggests expert Dr Pam Spurr. “Wear them for an hour so they’re fresh but impregnated with your own sexy scent. Then post them to them with a note telling them to sleep with them. Your pheromonal scent will have them dying to see you.”
54. Get Up
If your bloke goes floppy at the thought of condoms, get him to use them when he masturbates so he gets accustomed to the feel of rubber on his skin.
55 Sex O’Clock
“Chronobiology, which is the study of our daily biological rhythms, has found that the best time for having sex is 10pm, as that’s when we are most sensitive to a lover’s touch,” says Spurr. “That said, there are individual differences in when people experience sexual peaks, so experiment until you find yours.”
56. Getting Fresh
“Brush your teeth before giving oral sex,” say US sexperts Em and Lo, “it will keep things way fresher for you.” Plus they’ll reap the benefits of a mint tingle.
57. Knick Them
Borrow a pair of your lover’s (clean) pants, then masturbate through them while they’re watching. Every time they wear them they’ll get horny at the memory.
58. Top To Tail
Lick from the nape of your lover’s neck to the crease of their arse, paying particular attention to the coccyx at the base of their spine – it’s a major erogenous zone.
59. Slightest Touch
Get your partner to hover their hands all over your body, just above your skin, so they’re only stroking your downy hairs. Your nerve endings will be super-sensitised.
60. Lube Lover
Wearing condoms will feel better for your man if you squirt some lube inside them first. You’ll never go back…
61. Hormonal Hugs
The emotional bonding hormone, oxytocin, is at its peak after orgasm so ensure you cuddle and caress each other to maximise on these bonding moments and deepen your relationship,” advises Spurr.
62. Nosey
For top cunnilingus, get your lover to use their nose to tease the clitoris. It’s got more power action than a tongue and it’s easier for your lover to go longer because they don’t run out of lick.
63. A Mouthful
Rather than slap on lube like it’s ketchup, fill your mouth with the flavoured stuff and then sensually dribble it over the head of your man’s penis.
64. Glove Love
Wearing gloves – whether they’re wool, leather or satin – will give your hand-jobs a whole new feel.
65. Love Bites
“Love-bites are hugely underrated,” says Spurr. “Done well they’re really not an adolescent thing. With a gentle and skilful touch, they feel sensational and don’t leave lasting bruises. The trick is not to apply too much pressure and not to hold the pressure for very long. You can skip the neck area altogether and use a gentle love-bite action anywhere on the body, but particularly the abdomen, buttocks and thighs.”
66. Tantric Tease
Lick the roof of your lover’s mouth during kissing; it will tickle – in a good way.
67 Hair-raising
“Spice things up visually and give the illusion of variety by wearing a wig during sex,” suggest Em and Lo. “If you don’t have the nerve to don one on any given Wednesday, use a fancy dress party as an opportunity for less forced role-playing.”
68. Big Talk
If your man is having trouble staying hard, whisper dirty words in his ear. Tell him how good and big his cock feels inside you, and how much you want him to fuck you. Result: instant erection.
69. Tip Off
Go through this feature with your partner and pick three numbers under 21 you want to try – do anything with two picks tonight!
