From the set to your bed, sex industry experts are spilling the secrets they usually save for paying customers – and trust us, these tips are worth every penny. Whether it’s the art of faking it flawlessly, mastering positions that look just as good as they feel, or discovering the ultimate insider tricks for keeping things hot, the pros know how to turn every encounter into a show-stopping performance. Ready to learn the X-rated skills that can take your sex life from basic to blockbuster? Let’s pull back the velvet curtain and get down to business.
Handy Hint
“Kirsten Halborg (a famous ‘80s porn star) once told me I should make sure I’m doing something with my hands at all times: touching them, touching me, stroking their hair, squeezing my breasts, grabbing my heels, that sort of thing. Never have empty hands and you’ll appear super-attentive and confident.” Adult performer Sandie Caine
Dry Period
“If you want sex when you’re on without mess, use sponges: the softer the better, as it’s less scratchy for him. Don’t use anything with a scourer on! Try either a natural sea sponge or sponge tampons like the ones we reviewed here. And don’t worry about losing it, what goes up always comes down.” Adult performer Starr
Look, No Hands
“Most erotic dance clubs have a ‘no touching’ rule, so when I dance at home for my husband, to make it more authentic, I tie his arms to a chair so he can’t touch me. Then I dance really close – so close that he can smell my perfume and feel my body heat – and then I blow in his ear to really tease him.
It’s possible to make a man come by dancing for him. Get him naked, sit him on a chair and then part his knees and dance between them. You can roll your bottom across his manhood, or you can turn to face him and gently flick your hair across his penis by circling your head just above it.” Burlesque dance instructor Katya Gardiner
Oral Skills
“When I was learning my trade as a prostitute, the first thing I was taught was how to put on a condom erotically. The girls who work the streets know how to carry condoms in their mouths, then apply them without hands by rolling them down while deep throating.
Buy condoms you enjoy tasting. Sample a few until you find a brand you like. Then when you anticipate sex, unwrap the condom before your first kiss. You don’t want to struggle with the wrapper when you’re turned on. When you’re ready to use it, drop it on the head of the penis and roll it down to the base with your mouth. Don’t talk about the condom during sex. Make it unobtrusive. I got so good at this that a few clients panicked because they thought I was sucking them bareback. I’d show them the condom on their cock and they’d ask, ‘How did you do that?’” Veronica Monet, sex worker and author
Head Games
“To make a guy come, tell him your twin sister just told you that she wants to join you in a three-way and have him fuck her up the ass until he shoots his hot semen in her tight, virgin asshole.” Adult performer Taylor Wayne
Pleasure Pit
“To take a big cock without it hurting, you need lots of lube and an open mind. I once had a client who was 14 inches and I used to do him in my armpit. He loved it.” Kay Good, sex worker and author
Watch And Learn
“I recommend women look at their crotch daily: put a mirror on the floor, step over it and get a good look. Know what it looks like, smells like and tastes like, so you know when something’s wrong.
A pimple could look like herpes, a genital wart or a shaving bump; often you can’t tell the difference, but if you think it could be a wart what you can do is get some white vinegar, put it on a paper towel and put it on top of the suspected area for about two minutes. When you pull it off, if the tip of the sore is white, it’s a genital wart; if it’s not, it’s something else. If you can’t get to the doctor right away, take a piece of duct tape, cut it a little bit longer than the size of the wart and put it on there. It will smother the wart so it won’t be able to replicate until you can get to the doctor.” Dr Sharon Mitchell, retired adult performer
Bum Deal
“Anal scenes take quite a bit of preparation because obviously you don’t want any ‘nasties’ coming out – especially on camera. I use chemist-bought enema kits. They’re around £10 from most chemists, and contain insertable pipettes of fluid that help flush you out. But the fluid contains a laxative and that can make matters worse later on, so I empty that out and refill the pipettes with warm water instead.
Also, it’s important to take a break from anal sex. Actresses who regularly do anal scenes with huge cocks and toys can lose the elasticity in theirs rear ends. So save anal for special occasions.” Porn star Paige Ashley
Potty Mouth
“For the ultimate move to turn any man on, I always resort to the mouth. Cock sucking and dirty talk is the key to a man’s loins.” Lauren Wissot, pro-Domme and author
That’s Magic
“More than a few women I know never had orgasms until I introduced them to the Hitachi Magic Wand . If you have a hard time getting there, this toy can help. Let your partner know it helps make your orgasm more intense, so when you come, your pussy will contract and grab his cock tighter, making his orgasm better too. It’s win/win!!” Buck Angel, Former Trans Male Performer of the Year
No Strings Attached
“One of the greatest fears of lap dancers is having your tampon string fall out while you’re dancing for someone. The last thing you want is to be caught off guard when it suddenly hangs down revealing that you’re on your period. So, rather than pushing it inside, most lap dancers prefer to cut it off.” Lap Dancer, Carmen
Fake It
“When women are actually having an orgasm they usually stop breathing for a second. They get louder and louder and then go quiet for just a second. Their bodies usually tense up and they hold their breath. A sure way I can tell if somebody’s faking it is that they don’t do that. When they’re faking they always forget.” Adult performer Stormy Daniels
Spot On
“To get rid of a spot on your arse in a hurry, dab on pure alcohol, available from chemists.” Adult film producer Anna Span
Deep And Meaningful
“Deep throating a big cock is a lot easier if you lie on your back with your head almost hanging off the bed. Use one hand to ease his cock down your throat, keeping it at the base of his shaft as he slides in and out of your mouth. Your throat will naturally relax and you’ll be able to take much more of him in.” Suzanne Noble, sex expert and author.
Bottom Line
“To make anal sex comfortable, start by having vaginal penetration, then use lots of lube on whatever’s being inserted in the butt. Start with a finger or two or a butt toy, and work up to the bigger objects. Once you’re warmed up, he’ll be able to thrust more. Don’t use Anal Eaze desensitising cream or other numbing agents – if you can’t feel it, don’t do it. Also, rub your clit while you’re getting fucked.” Jamye Waxman, adult performer, author and therapist.
Chat ‘N’ Show
““I’ve had guys who say ‘Actually I don’t like that,’ and I’m thinking, ‘Well, why didn’t you tell me?’ Talk about everything as you’re doing it rather than waiting. If you’re kissing someone, say, ‘Does that feel nice? Do you like when my tongue goes in like this?’ and then there’s no embarrassment and the guy finds it easier to answer you because he’s in the moment. When you’re doing anything with the body, wanking them, fucking them, anything, ask ‘Do you like it hard or softer?’. You will have quiet times and it doesn’t have to be a running commentary, but every now and then say ‘how does that feel?’ in a sexy way. It brings you closer together if you talk to each other, whereas if you have sex without saying anything you’ve had no connection really, apart from something that’s physical.”” Adult performer Daisy Rocks
Pull A Porn Star
“It can be a turn off if a woman thinks she has to slam me against the wall and have violent sex with me because I’m a porn performer. An ideal date makes me laugh, does a strip and indulges in some wonderful foreplay. Watching a woman play with herself helps get the evening started.” Mark Sloan, adult performer
Top 3 Porn Tricks for Him
1 Fruity
“If a man wants his sperm to taste sweet for an oral sex scene, he should eat lots of strawberries for a day or two beforehand.” Mark Sloan, Porn star
2 Top Loader
“To produce a big load of ejaculate, eat egg whites. Generally speaking, the more protein the better.” Jason Maskell of Harmony Films
3 Muscle In
“To keep your cock harder for longer, clench the muscle behind your balls a few times a day. During sex, allow yourself to pant freely, don’t hold your breath, and get ready to clench that muscle tight until the feeling of wanting to climax passes. The longer you hold on, the more amazing your eventual climax will be.” Jerry Barnett, adult content provider
Secret Potion: Aqueous
It transpires that the porn industry’s best- kept secret has actually been available in Boots all along. Aqueous Cream was raved about by so many of the stars we interviewed that we had to give it a special mention. Used as an alternative to soap, it’s apparently a porn-set staple, ideal for refreshing your intimate region between sessions and a good way to keep thrush at bay. “If you’re working with different guys you wash your pussy between scenes,” says Daisy Rocks, “and I only wash with Aqueous from Boots. It’s an unperfumed cream. They give it to you at STI clinics and say, ‘Don’t use anything else but this’. And because it’s cream it moisturises the area too.” Buy it here.
